Aquarius January 21- February 20
Aquarius, the eleventh sign of the zodiac is an air sign. Because of their selective nature in connecting with others and need for deep and intellectual conversation, Aquarius are less likely to openly discuss their feelings when experiencing a loss.
Aquarius are extremely free spirited. In most cases this will lead them to seek unconventional outlets for expressing their grief. Aquarians are also very independent. This independence leads others to interpret their sovereignty as distance, unmoved, and unaffected by loss. This could not be further from the truth. Aquarius feel VERY deeply and unlike the other signs will process their feelings own their own as opposed to seeking comfort from others. Instead, Aquarius many seek to make major or minor changes of some sort in their personal lives.
The best way to support an Aquarius who is grieving is to give them their space. When they are ready, they will come to you. Aquarius must feel strongly connected to you in order to open themselves up and express their true thoughts and feelings. DO NOT try and force this connection. Instead, simply express your thoughts in a non-invasive way. YOU CANNOT FORCE CONVERSATION WITH AN AQUARIUS. When and only when they are ready will they talk. Give them space, give them time and let them take the lead.
Capricorn December 22- January 19
Capricorn is the 10th sign of the zodiac. Capricorns are the most dedicated, intelligent and, hardworking of the signs. Capricorns achieve and excel at whatever they put their minds to. Capricorns invest their all into everything that they do. They are the most personable and work very hard at making others happy.
When the Capricorn experiences grief it is a very internally painful experience for them. Capricorns have a deep understanding of life and death. Though they have this understanding, Capricorns feel extremely defeated and hopeless when relationships of all kinds come to an end (work, personal, romantic, etc.). Their pride and sensitivity cause Capricorn to retreat into their grief and reach for the familiar pressure to fix everything for everyone else.
The best way to support a Capricorn who is experiencing grief is to allow them to express themselves once they open up to you. Listen attentively and don’t try to force them to expose their feelings, this will only make them go deeper into themselves and possibly break communication all together. Do what you can do show Capricorns the love that they show others. Reciprocity is key with Capricorns.
Sagittarius November 22- December 21
Sagittarius is the ninth sign of the Zodiac and is the most independent and confident. Sagittarius are also very deeply rooted in their spiritual beliefs. Their beliefs make them feel as if they know the answers to life’s questions. Trust is very important to the Sagittarius. The more information and insight they have the more confidently they are able to maneuver through life’s highs and lows.
Sagittarius are the researchers and seek to do things by rules and the book. Unfortunately; grief does not play by the rules nor is there a book that can tell the Sagittarius how to experience grief. Because of this the Sagittarius feels the least confident and capable when they are grieving.
Grief challenges the Sagittarius belief. It forces them to realize that they can’t possibly know all of the answers and dispels the myth that life is fair if you do the right thing. Sagittarius interpret their lack of understanding and inability to gain the blueprint for “feeling better” or “making things right” as personal failure. This makes them prone to much guilt and depression.
The best way to support a Sagittarius who is grieving is to give them as much information as you can without overwhelming them. Articles, excepts and hard statistical data are important and will give the Sagittarius comfort. Avoid asking open ended questions that the Sagittarius can’t answer but encourage them to challenge their perspective own their own.
nScorpio October 23- November 21
Scorpio is the eighth and most disciplined signed of the zodiac. Scorpios are the overachievers and most competitive of all the signs. Scorpios pride themselves on being able to provide and care financially for those that they love. Scorpios in many cases are very materialistic and tend to put high value on material items.
Because of their competitive nature Scorpio’s view grief as something that must be conquered. This leads them to approach loss intellectually in an attempt to avoid experiencing grief emotionally. When the Scorpio can no long run from the emotions that accompany grief, they can become overwhelmed and, in some cases, physically ill. In order to heal themselves physically Scorpio’s often turn to spirituality and develop rigorous self-care rituals. This brings balance into their lives on many levels.
The best way to support a Scorpio who is experiencing grief is to give them the support that they extend to others. Scorpios are great teachers and value being heard and appreciated. Allow the Scorpio to share their grief journey in the form of spiritual lessons. Give feedback and let the Scorpio know how witnessing their journey has inspired and encouraged you.
Libra September 23- October 22
Libra is the seventh and most balanced sign of the zodiac. Above all else Libras value harmony. In life and in death they believe that things should be done right and fair. Libras handle grief and loss with the same balance that they approach life. Libras find it difficult to process situations where someone passes away as a result of being murdered or when a child passes away.
Libras need to process grief intellectually more so than emotionally. Their logic brings them comfort in accepting loss. The Libra is less likely to display their emotions publicly. Libras find comfort in the company of family, friends and large groups. They feel most vulnerable emotionally when they area alone.
The best way to support a Libra who is experiencing grief is to keep them busy with social activities. Church, work and other functions are great ways to keep their hands and overanalytical minds busy. When the Libra is alone it is vital that they are given their space. However, if you happen to observe or witness a moment from a Libra be sure to reassure them that what they are experiencing is normal and they are completely safe in expressing their emotions.
Virgo August 23- September 22
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Virgo is the sixth and most reserved sign of the zodiac. Virgos are extremely protective of their emotions and have a hard time forming genuine connections. Because they shield their hearts and emotions so closely when they do lose someone or something that they love they take the loss extremely personal. Grief causes the normally confident Virgo to question themselves and often struggle with unnecessary guilt even if they could have never prevented it from occurring. They also will question whether they were the best (whatever) that they could be prior to the loss.
Virgos find comfort in spending time in cemeteries alone at their loved one’s burial site. Virgos are also very spiritually sensitive and may have dreams about deceased loved ones receiving messages from the other side which bring them much comfort. Grief causes the Virgo to become less guarded as they often seek to find comfort in rekindling old friendships and making amends.
The best way to support a Virgo who is experiencing grief is to offer words of comfort and condolence from afar unless you are someone who is in their personal circle. Virgos can become overwhelmed and confused by too much attention especially when they are in a vulnerable state. If they are receptive, continue to reach out without overstepping their boundaries. Repeated phone calls and unannounced visits are not the way to express condolences with Virgos.
Leo July 23- August 22
Leo is the fifth sign of the Zodiac. Leos are seekers. They are always looking for the meaning behind everything even if there is no deeper meaning. Like the the lion the Leo normally exudes strength, independence and vigor. When experiencing grief, the Leo completely crumbles and falls into depression.
Initially upon experiencing a loss simple task such as getting out of bed, taking care of personal hygiene and managing everyday life become almost impossible for the Leo. Once the reality of loss sets in for the Leo, they adopt a pattern of trying to convince others that they are okay. Indeed, they are not okay. The Leo struggles in finding meaning in loss and can potentially begin drown in their emotion.
The best way to support a Leo who is grieving is to let them know that you are there and offer your support in ways that best suit the individual. Leos need reassurance more than any other sign of the zodiac. Keeping the lines of communication open is vital. Calling, texting and offering to visit are good ways to keep the Leo connected to the real world. Encouraging the Leo to volunteer or be of service to others helps them to step outside of themselves and experience joy and peace for even a brief time.
Cancer June 22- July 22
Cancer is the fourth sign of the zodiac. Cancers are extremely logical, intuitive and can also be very emotional. Cancers are very organized and are extremely loyal to their families and close loved ones.
When experiencing a loss Cancers will dive deep into their intellect to make sense of and understand their emotions. This will require the Cancer to spend time alone as they reminisce with their sacred memories. Because of their intuitive nature Cancers will often tap into the feelings of others and draw strength from connecting with and supporting others who are also grieving.
The best way to support a Cancer who is grieving is to surround them with love and family. Family means EVERYTHING to the Cancer. While Cancers need to be surrounded with family and loved ones, they also need time to process things own their own. Photos, personalized memorabilia and nostalgic gifts will be greatly appreciated by the Cancer.
Gemini May 21- June 20
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Gemini is the third sign of the zodiac. Gemini’s are extremely giving and thrive on making life comfortable and enjoyable for others. Gemini’s are 100% dedicated and committed to all of their relationships and do their best to support others to the best of their ability.
Gemini’s are another sign that are dependent upon their ability to be in control of circumstances. When experiencing loss, the Gemini will do their best to remain optimistic and process their emotions often verbally through conversations with close family and friends. Though they many times have a tough exterior this is a complete facade Gemini’s are extremely sensitive to criticism.
Gemini’s require equal space and time with others. This balance is sacred to them. When Gemini’s spend too much time with others, they can become irritable and moody. When they spend too much time alone, they are prone to periods of deep depression.
The best way to support a Gemini who is experiencing grief is to be a listening non-critical ear. Gemini’s also greatly appreciated giving and receiving material gifts. To a Gemini a gift is more than a gift, it represents the thought, care, and love of your thinking of them. Another great way to support a Gemini who is grieving is to honor their space.
Taurus April 20 – May 20
Taurus is the second sign of the zodiac and are notorious for being stubborn. I challenge this perspective by offering that they instead have deeply rooted belief systems. Taurus love routine and ritual. Because of this Taurus has the hardest time with accepting loss because it contradicts their reality, especially if the loss is unexpected. Taurus struggle with vulnerability and often respond to loss with anger and aggression because they take the loss extremely personal.
Taurus will always seek the feeling of being grounded. Attending funerals and seeing the deceased in person is devastating for the Taurus and makes the reality of loss inescapable. Grief strips the Taurus of control and unlike their neighboring sign of Aries, Taurus will seek comfort in familial groups and religion. The Taurus needs to feel as if they belong but at the same time requires space.
The best way to support a Taurus who is experiencing grief is to offer reassurance and positive reinforcement. Encouraging Taurus to express themselves and praising them when they do is vital. Taurus need to feel and be appreciate for their loyalty. Understand that the Taurus processes things best from a hands-off perspective and will more than likely do everything in their power to resume life as normal. Do not try and take control and autonomy away from the Taurus. A listening ear and an encourage word are best.
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