Thinking about moving on after the loss of a spouse or another loved one is emotional. If you are thinking of moving in order to begin a fresh chapter in your life, you’ll need to plan for your emotional journey just as much as your physical voyage. How can you know whether a move is right for you, and what should you expect once you’ve decided to look for a new home?
The Grave Woman shares a few important perspectives to keep in mind when managing a move
during a time of grief. Have you lost a loved one and are having difficulties navigating your grief? The Grief Kit can bring you comfort and encourage spiritual growth.
Moving After a Major Loss Can Be Beneficial
There are many reasons why a move may make sense after losing a loved one. If you are
grieving the loss of a spouse, a smaller home may be more manageable and may offer fewer
maintenance and utility costs. You may be able to use that extra income for activities that will
help you feel happy again, like traveling to see friends or to see more of the world.
If you do decide to sell your home, you need to take steps to ensure the process goes smoothly.
You can get started by using an online estimator to get an idea of what your home is worth
compared to other houses in your area. You’ll need a real estate agent to help you with both
selling your home and buying a new one.
While a move could be a positive change for you, it’s important to avoid making that decision
until you’ve had some time to process your loss. You don’t have to be 100 percent healed to
make the right decision, but you should allow enough time to have found some peace.
Moving May also Cause Stress
Sometimes, a fresh start provided by a move can help your life make sense again. You may
want to move to be closer to other loved ones, or you may feel inspired to live your life in a
different way. If you do decide to move, know that you may also feel more grief. The process of
moving involves letting go of the life you once had, so don’t be surprised if you feel melancholy
over your move, even if it’s a happy one. You can start planning your move about four weeks
ahead of time to make dealing with those emotions easier, and you can also find ways to deal
with the stress and emotions of moving, like practicing more self-care.
A New Home Can Give You a New Perspective
Oftentimes, the people who decide to move homes after a loss are dealing with the death of a
spouse or partner. It’s important to acknowledge the complicated grief process that comes with
losing someone you planned to share your life as well as your home with. The importance of
patience cannot be stressed enough since time is the only thing that will ease your pain. You
have to wade through those intense emotions to come up with a different life plan that will still
bring you joy. A move can help you start that new life, but make sure you move to a home that
will make you happy too. If a house excites you and you begin to picture your new life there,
chances are you have found the right one.
You’ll Need to Deal with Your Difficult Emotions
Buying a new home and starting a new chapter of your life can be filled with excitement, even
when you are also processing grief. Allow yourself to feel that happy energy, but also know that
you still have some hard work ahead of you.
Before you pack up your things, you may need to sort through the possessions of the person
you lost. To make the task easier, begin by downsizing some of your own things, and then move
onto the rest when you feel ready. You may also want to have a friend or family member help
so you can more easily decide what to keep, what to pass along to loved ones, and what to
donate to those in need. It’s always hard to get rid of your departed loved one’s belongings, but
knowing those items are making a difference for someone else can make it easier.
Grief is fluid, and it’s different for each person experiencing it. While a move will never erase
the pain of losing the person you love, it can bring back purpose to your life. Just be patient
with the process.
About the Blogger
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I thought it would be fun to share a few fun facts about myself in response to a few personal questions that I have received so here goes!
1. Where Are You From?
I was born in Lakenheath, England, on February 27th, 1986. I grew up in a small military town called Beaufort, South Carolina, surrounded by a beautiful family.
2. Are You An Only Child?
I am the eldest of two children. I have one younger sister that I love very much.
3. What Do People Not Know About You?
I am a HUGE nerd. I am full of much random information and love learning about a plethora of different subjects ranging from funeral service to geography, history, and zoology.
4. Describe Your Off Camera Personality
I would describe myself as an introverted extrovert. I love being alone just as much as I enjoy being around others. One of my favorite things to do is be alone with my thoughts. In real life, I am more quiet and shy but can be the life of the party if I feel comfortable. In mortuary school, must to my surprise I won the superlative for best personality.
5. What is Your Secret Talent?
I am a great cook. For a while, I played with the idea of starting a cooking channel.
6. How Long Have You Been Making YouTube Videos?
I am not new to YouTube. I have an ancient YouTube channel where I discuss life, natural hair, and cooking. If you can find it, you will be genuinely entertained. I have been making videos about funeral service since March 26th, 2016 only recently became consistent and more focused on this channel in July of last year after my lawyer suggested that I take YouTube more seriously.
7. What's Your Favorite Food?
I love popcorn...no seriously I LOVE POPCORN! It's one of if not my favorite food.
8. Do You Collect Anything?
I have a unicorn collection.
9. What's Your Favorite Thing to Do?
My favorite thing to do is travel. I have been to Mexico, Bahamas, many states on the East Coast, and most recently, I visited New Mexico for the first time.
10. Do You Have Any Pets
I have a dog named Love that I love VERY MUCH! I don't have any children, so she is my baby. She is a seven-year-old Yorkie and Chihuahua mix. She was given to me by a friend from mortuary school the day before graduation and is one of the best things to ever happen to me in life.
*** Bonus Question*** What Would You Be Doing If You We'rent A Funeral Director?
I am an entrepreneur. I currently own and operate three businesses. I am an independent insurance agent and have a funeral service, which is both closely tied. I also have a company called Spirit Candy, where I make and distribute homemade healing bath salts, shea butters, and sugar scrubs. You can learn more about Spirit Candy by visiting www.spiritcandyproducts.com
I am also very interested in meta and quantum physics and would like to expand my knowledge and education to integrate those areas of thought and science to be used for healing for those who are grieving and in the process of transitioning.
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Throughout our journey we have been living life in “bubbles". These “bubbles “happened without us even realizing, but they soon became the norm and part of our everyday life. The first unexpected bubble was the “hospital bubble". Little did we know what was facing us as a family on the day our Dad was rushed and admitted to hospital on 5th September 2016.
As bad as our Dad was when he was found at home, as he had regained consciousness before getting into the ambulance, and because once we arrived, despite the pain he said he was experiencing he was as normal as could be considering the circumstances, we were not prepared for what was to come. He was talking, responding normally, telling us stories. He was hungry, so we had gone to get him something to eat. So as far as we were aware, things were OK as could be.
That all changed in what felt like the blink of an eye. Our Dad needed various tests done. We were told he would be admitted to a short stay ward after this and we would be able to visit him there. (He had been in the A&E upon his admission). Once we went to see our Dad on the short stay ward EVERYTHING had changed. Our Dad was not the same person and we could not work out why, and what could have caused this drastic change in such a short space of time.
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About the Grief Probate Journey in their own words.
We are Tara and Tanya Greene, founders of Grief Probate Journey. We are sharing our story along our journey of Grief, the Probate Process and feelings emotions we are dealing with since our Dad passed away in 2017. Our Dad was hospitalized in September 2016, sadly passing away in March 2017. Since 2016 to this very day it has been a continuous learning experience. We wanted to find a way to share our story in the hope of helping people who might be going through something similar or might know of someone going through something similar.
When someone passes away there are so many details and decisions that must be made in a very short period of time. In this video, I share 4 things you should NEVER do when someone dies.
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Father’s Day is a beautiful day of celebration for most fathers. However, many times we tend to overlook fathers who have lost their children. These fathers are not only forgotten on special occasions but also many in conversations about grief. In order to pay honor to and give special recognize, I have compiled the following list of 5 phrases of love you can use instead of Happy Father’s Day to celebrate a Dad who has lost a child.
1. I am thinking of you this Father’s Day.
2. You are not forgotten this weekend.
3. In honor of (insert deceased child’s name) we continue to celebrate you.
4. I am here to listen in case your need a break from this weekend’s festivities.
5. You give your all and have inspired me to be the best person I can be every day. I want to take the time to say thank you.
In this video, I share my personal experience from mortuary school and answer a few viewer questions. Submit your mortuary school-related questions below or email me directly at thegravewoman.com
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Pisces February 21- March 19
Crystal- Sea Green
Pisces is the twelfth and final sign of the zodiac sign. This makes the Pisces and a unique sometimes confusing creature to interpret especially when grieving. Pisces are extremely spiritual and are the most intuitive of all the signs. Because of their dreamy and mystical nature, Pisces are the most prone to have supernatural or paranormal experiences when someone passes away. Because of their intuitiveness, Pisces may even sense death and loss before it occurs.
Pisces are the feelers of the Zodiac. They feel EVERYTHING deeply. Pisces are also very emphatic and can and will absorb the emotions of grief and sadness from those who are sharing in loss. They will do their best to take care of and try and make others feel better in any way that they can often forgetting to care for themselves. This leads to feelings of overwhelmed and forgotten. Pisces encompass all of the positive and negative attributes of all the signs, and exert so much energy caring for others. Pisces are often misunderstood as moody. This is not the case. They instead are trying to process all of the energy and feelings that belong to themselves and others.
The best way to support a Pisces who is grieving is to nurture and let nurture. Pisces desire, respond well to and welcome physical touch and words of affirmation. Encouraging and reminding Pisces to engage in self care will be well received. Because of their mystical nature material gifts do not mean as much as shared experiences and one on one connection. Calling to check in and spending quality time with a grieving Pisces offers healing and will be GREATLY appreciated.
Joél Simone Anthony, also known as ‘The Grave Woman,’ is a licensed funeral director and embalmer. She is dedicated to eliminating misconceptions about post-life preparation while stimulating an open, honest and straight forward discussion about death. You can submit your comments, questions and requests to email@example.com or by using our contact page.